Letters to My Little One | 20 Weeks In My Belly


Thursday, February 9, 2017

To my little peanut,

Can you believe it’s been 20 weeks already? We are half way there, little one. You are developing more + more and pushing out more + more. I can feel you kick every once in a while if I really focus. Daddy likes to push on my belly to see if you’ll respond, most of the time, I believe you do! Soon your kicks will get stronger and stronger. And perhaps you’ll even kick daddy back one of these days!

We’re so excited to see you next week on the big screen! You have no idea how excited we are. We get to see you for the first time and it’s going to be amazing. I have dreamed about this day for so long. And it’s finally almost here. Daddy is really excited, too. We keep reminding each other how many days until we get to see you. It’s going to be our little Valentine’s day gift. So, thank you, little one. I couldn’t have asked for a better gift!

I am most excited to see you kick and to hopefully recognize what it feels like when you do kick! The doctor told me last visit (way back at the beginning of January, can you believe that?) that some first time mom’s don’t recognize that they felt their baby kick until later in their first pregnancy. But, I know I’ve felt you kick. It feels like a pressure that I’ve never felt before, and it’s only gotten stronger over the weeks. I know it’s you saying hello to me.

You do keep me up at night, already! It’s so hard to find a comfortable position now, but I don’t blame you. My legs also cramp during the night which doesn’t make it any easier. I have a nice pillow that I use and that usually helps. I guess you’re just getting me ready for when you come into this world. I know I am going to have many sleepless nights once you get here, but I know it will be worth it. Because, little one, you are worth it. You’re worth everything! You’re worth the nausea, the exhaustion, the sleepless nights, you’re worth it. Because you are exactly what I wanted. I waited a longer time than I thought I would, and I am so happy you’re finally in my belly growing like a champ. Keep it up!

People are starting to notice you because you are getting so big. I smile proudly. I am not used to the size of my belly (and it’s not even that big yet!) but I smile because I know you’re in there, growing. I know you’re the reason my belly is getting bigger and bigger. I smile because you’re in there. Oh! I can’t wait to see you next week! You’re going to be so cute, I just know it!

We still have quite the journey ahead of us. 20 more weeks. But we’ve made it this far, little one, and I know we can make it the rest. Know that there are so many people here that already love you. I can’t wait to see you next week! I can already tell how perfect you are going to be, so keep growing! Keep maturing! Keep being perfect, little one.

I love you so much!

Love, mommy

Letters to My Little One | 18 Weeks In My Belly


18 weeks

I can’t believe I’ve been carrying you for 18 weeks. We’ve come so far, yet have so far to go, little one! I smile so big when your daddy rubs my belly and whispers sweet things to you. Such as, “Good Morning, little one. Daddy loves you.” It melts my heart! We get to find out what you are on Valentine’s day and it can’t get here fast enough. Boy or girl, you will be loved and cherished.

As you’ll find out when you’re older, I love elephants. I picked elephants as your animal for a number of reasons. They are strong, beautiful, and majestic. They are big creatures, but still elegant. The number one reason I picked elephants is for the story below:

An elephant and a dog became pregnant at the same time. Three months down the line the dog gave birth to six puppies. Six months later the dog was pregnant again, and nine months on it gave birth to another dozen puppies. The pattern continued.

On the eighteenth month the dog approached the elephant questioning, “Are you sure that you are pregnant? We became pregnant on the same date, I have given birth three times to a dozen puppies and they are now grown to become big dogs, yet you are still pregnant. Whats going on?”.

The elephant replied, “There is something I want you to understand. What I am carrying is not a puppy but an elephant. I only give birth to one in two years. When my baby hits the ground, the earth feels it. When my baby crosses the road, human beings stop and watch in admiration, what I carry draws attention. So what I’m carrying is mighty and great.”

You are mighty and great. One day you will draw attention. Everyone already loves you. Your mom loves you. Your dad loves you. You will accomplish amazing things in your life. I am so excited for the day you get here, but, please take your time to grow and mature.

Love, Mommy


Because You’re Important Too

I’m going to be talking to mom photographers/photographers right now. Mom’s in general, but if you’re not a photographer, seek out a photographer to take your images. 😉 Alright mom photographers/photographers. You’ve got that camera in your hand 24/7 it seems. You’re chasing your little ones around and it’s so much fun. Years from now you look at all the images you’ve taken over the years. They’re all great. There’s that one of your oldest putting dirt all over herself. There’s that one of your youngest being comforted by your oldest and it touches your heart. There’s another one of your husband holding your oldest for the first time and it’s magical. But as you look through ALL of these photos, you realize something is missing. That something is YOU.


Let’s be real. As photographers, it is SO hard to get behind the camera. We’re worried to pass the camera on. Or maybe we’re worried about doing a self portrait. Maybe we don’t like the way we look. Maybe we don’t know where to begin to start getting in the frame. Put all of your insecurities aside. People need to see you throughout your history.


Don’t worry. I’m here to help. Because you’re important too. You were there too. Your children want to see pictures of you too. They’ll cherish any picture they have of you way down in the future. So, keep that in mind. I want to make something very clear. It doesn’t have to be JUST YOU in the photo. Add in your husband. Add in children. Add in dogs. Add in cats. Having something else in the picture might put you at ease and you’ll actually have fun! And as a side note, you don’t even have to have your face in some of the images! Like the one above of my dog and my feet. 😉 Have fun with it. Explore! There’s so many different things you can do with self portraits. If you have little babies, set them up in their high chair, set up the tripod, and feed them food, or just interact with the images. There’s sooo many different things you can do.


There’s a few things you need to achieve a self portrait, let’s list them (because we all know I love lists!):

  •  Camera (any will do that can have remote or interval timer capabilities!)
  • Remote (optional)
  •  Tripod (optional)
  •  YOU!

If you don’t have a tripod, don’t worry. You can set your camera up on a mantle, a shelf, a chair, whatever you can find. Just make sure it’s safe and your camera won’t fall easily.

So you got the camera and the tripod. Now what? There are a few ways to go about getting a self portrait. First up is the remote. I ALWAYS set my camera to have it delay 2 seconds. That way, you don’t see the remote in my hand. 😉 Each camera is different, I highly recommend you look through your camera’s manual. It comes in handy A LOT. Trust me.

The next way is to set an interval timer. I have mine set up for 10 second delay, taking 9 shots, with 2 seconds in between each shot. I think this is my favorite way to take self portraits because I’m not having to constantly push a remote’s button.


The last way is to hand the camera over. I’ve done this with my ELEVEN YEAR OLD sister (she took the one above of me and my dog). I set up the shot by making the exposure the way I wanted and then I handed her the camera, told her how to back button focus (because that’s how I do things) and told her WHERE to focus. I think that is the key here for handing the camera over. I usually say, focus on my eye or something like that (unless I don’t want my face in the image, then I’d say focus on my hands, on my dogs eye, etc). It’s so easy, even my eleven year old sister can do it. 😉 The image below my husband took.


Ok you got everything set up. But wait. HOW do I focus on ME? I have had some failed focus issues in the past. I had my camera set to face recognition, and I’m sure that works for some people, but it just doesn’t work for me. Every time I’ve used it, it focuses on my nose. Only every once in a while can I achieve the focus I want. So how do you achieve focus for a self portrait?

There are a couple of ways to achieve focus. You can have a stand in! For the shot below, I had my husband stand where I wanted us to be. I focused on him, and I actually changed my camera to manual focus so that it would stay put (AFTER focusing, because auto focus is easier to get it crisp). Then I set up my interval timer and pushed the shutter button and stood next to him. We’re in focus! Yay! So, if you have someone around, use them as a stand in! I have done this with my sister as well, where I had her stand where I wanted to be, I took some shots of her, then we switched places and she took some of me (all while the camera was still on the tripod). She had fun, I had fun, and I got some photos of me. Win win win.


Another way, and this is probably my favorite because I don’t always have someone with me, is to stand where you want to stand and mark that place (I usually put my lens cap on the ground where I want to stand) and focus on your TRIPOD (or wherever your camera will be if you don’t have a tripod). Set your lens to manual focus so that it stays put. Set your camera up on your tripod or a ledge or wherever it will be. Then when you hop back in place where you were standing, you’ll be in focus. It’s amazing. I love it. You should definitely play around with it. I’ve finally figured it out to get perfect focus almost every time.


This is the image of my tripod as I focused on it (I don’t always take a picture, but I did this time to show you). And then below is where the tripod and camera were pointing to, to get the last three shots of this blog post.



Ok, last tip, and this one is HUGE. You will have more success getting what you want in focus if you have a higher aperture. Yes. That’s right. DO NOT SHOOT WIDE OPEN! I get it, I love the look of wide open images. But we need to make it easier on us. When shooting a self portrait, I usually try to shoot 3+. There are occasions that I shoot wide open. But for the most part, getting that higher aperture will help a lot! If you are photographing you with a group of people, you’ll need the f-stop even higher, so keep that in mind. 😃



If you have any questions or anything to add, comment below. Thanks for reading! ❤️